friends and foes
do they irk you? do they bother you?
here is a simple solution
STOP EXPECTING!! STOP DESIRING!!!**
as Lord Buddha wisely said,
"Desire is the root cause of misery"
**: this does not imply that you stop expecting your bonus/gifts/surprises ;). I was in a rotten mood as I wrote this and only wished to convey expect the downs to come in and take them as a challenge! Accept your mistakes and Be the change yourself.